“I’d love to have colleagues to go out on Fridays for a wine-down after work” – I told to my partner around Christmas time, when it was impossible to book a restaurant as everybody was having Christmas dinners for weeks.
Being an entrepreneur can be a lonely thing. Working from home has its perks, but it also has its disadvantages, such as the lack of organised coffee-breaks, Christmas dinners or Friday drinks amongst others. After 7 years being a solopreneur, relishing my freedom and location independence abilities, I was starting to miss working with people. But not with anybody. I wouldn’t change for anything in the world not having to put up with incompetent, egotistic, disinterested colleagues or bosses. And when you work for someone else, you can’t choose your colleagues.
Finding / Creating my own tribe is taking me a long time, and that might be related with how little energy I have for people I find no connection or affinity with. And that’s ok (this statement has also taken me a long time to not feel guilty about). You know what they say, your vibe attracts your tribe, I wholeheartedly stand by it. But that only happens when we dare to put ourselves out there, with our needs and vulnerabilities, and tell the world what we need, what we want and how we want it.
I am seeing once and again how when I try to fill my own needs, when I show my vulnerabilities to the world, the world meets my needs every . single . time.
So, when I told the world I needed female colleagues, laughs, accountability, connection, a supportive network of likeminded badass women, the world told me: “Why don’t you create a Meetup group, dear?” So I did.
It wasn’t my first incursion in the realm of group and event creation, as I initiated myself on to this path of connecting with amazing and inspiring women in 2016 with my “baby” Awakened Creatress.
From that endeavour, I learned that jumping off a cliff always gives you wings, that hearing stories of struggles and success empower and inspire us, that the world is packed with female role models that live in the shadow, that behind every strong, successful woman there is ALWAYS a story of struggle and tribe of women who have her back. Unfailingly.
I also learned that one can’t do everything on their own, organising events, finding the right people, holding the vision, creating the magic, while running your own business takes a heavy toll. Awakened Creatress was my baby, it was my flesh and soul, and allowing other people to steer my baby away from my vision was painful, so I had to let my baby go.
Nine months later (isn’t the timing interesting?) I was ready to birth another baby, a wiser baby, one that wouldn’t have my blood running through her veins, but keeping the vision, the soul.
This is how Women Who Cowork was born.